Why don't you court me first?

Courtship is the traditional dating period before engagement and marriage. During a courtship, a couple may complete dates to get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement. Usually courtship is a public affair, done in public and with family approval. It includes activities such as dating where couples go out together for a meal, a movie or general companionship, along with other forms of activity.

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It's 2010 and the last time that I can remember actually going on a date or being courted was actually earlier this year. But, that dude is overall a bad example; it didn't end well. But his methods did however set the bar for future guys. He actually took the time to get to know me. (Little did I know he was also getting to know my friend too. Lesson #1 Keep the guy you are dating away from your friends. Especially the single ones) But back to the actual courting idea. He came up with places to go, new places in Atlanta, new restaurants, he called- everyday. Didn't mind recapping on the day during our nightly phone calls, didn't mind spending money ON me and also WITH me. Picked me up occasionally for the car time bonding. Meeting for lunch and just hanging out. And the closes thing to a sexual encounter was a passionate kiss. Never tried to take it further nor tried to test me. I honestly think, if it would've went further, I'd be having the time of my life. But it wasn't MY time per say. Anywho...

Lately, the guys that I am stumbling across now, just want to chill at the house. And for the longest I was against this "chill at the house and watch a movie and ohhh sip Moscato" idea. Like for real?? If this is your idea of a date, then please delete my number. Because after giving in to my being against it, I found myself settling: For loooooooserrsss!!!!!!! That really only wanted to try and test me to see how far I would go. And after hearing "No" after "No" after "NO", the offers to chill stopped. Thus proving my point correct.

Now don't get me wrong, chilling at the crib is nice, its cool, but I feel like doing that shouldn't be our first date and the only means to our dating lifestyle. Honestly, I am glad that I have encountered those guys, because they have proved me right as far as to this is not what I want. If a guy approaches me on some let's chill at the house instead of going out because it's convenient or some other reason that just doesn't sound right, I'm throwing the deuces. Seriously.

The simple dudes or I like to call them "Simps" are what I have found to plague the dating scene. I have found that the dudes with simple lives, who have no aspirations and goals are the ones who think the only means of dating may consist of staying at home. And though it was hard to resist them, because they have mastered the convincing technique that this is a great idea to lure girls into "chill mode", (I too have been suckered- but not anymore) I too have mastered saying "No." Call me "stuck up", being uppity, siddity, oh my favorite BOUGIE, whatever, it's still a "NO."

I listened to the Frank ad Wanda show last night, on the CW and they were talking about dating and courtship. They were saying that dating now is so different than what is was back in the day. Guys don't want to do anything for females anymore. Such as: open doors, pull out chairs, take them out to dinner or even buy flowers. They just want to show up and expect to be shown a "good time." The example Frank used was: If the women invites the man over for dinner, he shouldn't come over empty handed. He should bring something to her house: whether it is wine, dessert, flowers, whatever." Which is true. Ladies: If your homegirl invited you over to her house, you'll more than likely ask "Girl what you want me to bring?" Or same for fellas "Oh alright I'll bring the beer or whatever." What is the difference when the opposite sex invites you? Why do we seem to make things so difficult when they are quite simple?

This discussion can go on and on and back and forth; however the bottom line is: People no longer date. Is it because women have gotten so independent or have the men gotten lazy and dependent? Either way it goes, I do not disagree to the courting idea. I won't argue when the guy refuses that we go dutch. I won't even complain about him calling me everyday. I'm not asking where is chivalry? Or saying it has died and can't be resuscitated. No not at all. I'm simply asking:
Why don't you court me first?
Get to know me and be serious about it.
I'm really a great person!