Irresponsibility at its Finest

Once again, listening to the Frank and Wanda show on v-103 on my way to work, they sparked yet another blog entry. lol geez I tell you.

It started off with R.I.P Bobby Tillman (SN: Which is the saddest story of 2010 in my opinion. :'-( and I pray that it changes things in the youth society.) But then shifted to troubled teens and parents who don't know they have troubled teens and then to single parents. Now. Frank stated some statistics that were startling.

70% of African American babies are born to single mothers.
While out of that 70%, 50% are not expected to graduate high school.

Which made Frank Ski state this startling comment. "Men are being irresponsible." True. "But women, are being just as irresponsible as the man." WHOA!! Say that Frank! I couldn't agree more, to a certain point.

Women, need to have a better judgement when it comes down to picking the father of their child. If he is sorry, running the streets, hanging with his friends and not paying you any attention, except when it comes down to sex, then what makes you think he is qualified at being the father of your child. Women, say this all the time. "I don't need him to be there. I can do this alone." Yes, you can. No doubt. My mother did it. But speaking from the child of this independent mother, honestly, sincerely, if I could choose, I would've loved for my father to have more involvement in my life. Now, whether my parents got along, I don't know and I don't really care. As far as I am concerned, the two of them can be out of the equation, it was about me and him. You feel my drift?

Having a child is a blessing. Most people don't see this blessing. You have the opportunity to love someone unconditionally, yet, most parents (mom and dad) are not mature enough to fully comprehend this. I feel like women mess up when they give men the choice to leave. It shouldn't be an option. Make him be there for HIS child. Suggest it. Make it easy and try to make it work. It makes me angry seeing girls having babies with/from sorry guys. Like he is not cool, and that baby sure as hell isn't going to make him stay. It is an old trick that never works. Women feel like, if it is not going to work out between them, then she will hold the child as collateral and that isn't fair. It takes a mature woman, to understand, that this child' life isn't a joke, and it shouldn't be taken lightly.

I truly believe, coming from a woman, with no kids, by choice, that if more women were responsible in their judgement, than all the blame wouldn't be on the sorry baby daddys. And honestly the statistics wouldn't be so high. We as a race, need to make better decisions in general but it starts with the family.