Diamonds

It took me 25 years to get to the place where I am at and I was going to let 1 person change me in a couple of months. They were trying their best to tear me down, within my confidence, courage and strength and if I wasn’t careful they would have succeeded. Crazy huh? The thing is I knew this! Yep. I knew what they were doing but I didn’t want to let them go nor did I have the courage to say so – besides the couple of times that I would bring to their attention that I didn’t like something they were doing – but the point is I STAYED AROUND. I let them bring me down. Why? Fear of losing something that I thought was great which in turn ended up being toxic to me. They were a monster disguised in a suit. A uniform. A pair of jeans.  And it took one simple event to make a complete difference in my life for my eyes to open. Don’t get me wrong, my eyes were open before but my vision was cloudy, fuzzy... no really it was.  It wasn’t clear until I read the Courage to be Yourself  that I realized it wasn’t me, but the person I was surrounding my life around that was subconsciously tearing me down. 

How many times have we let someone we thought was so good to us, so good for us tear us down mentally and emotionally? We are constantly in a battle within ourselves to defend what we like, we honor and appreciate. Sometimes it takes one to appreciate the differences of another person to make them love you. You can’t make someone change for your selfish needs. If you do it will back fire and bite you in the ass. 

I can say one thing they weren’t going to get close to was my faith. If anything, I had that on lock. I knew if I continued to pray to God that He would make my vision clear and for me to see that just because it is cut right, the color is right and the carat weight is right doesn’t make it a quality diamond. We must all search for the clarity. 

In life we strive to have that quality diamond. When selecting your diamond in life, which will you choose? When put under the microscope (the list of your wants and needs), will you choose the perfect cut, the perfect color and weight to see if it meets your requirement or will you check the clarity (the inside) first and the rest will follow? It is up to you.

 “Don't rush into your diamond purchase. Take your time and evaluate your choice carefully. It took thousands of years for nature to form your diamond and the skill of a master diamond cutter to bring your diamond to you. The time you spend now can bring you a lifetime of pleasure.” – Diamond Manufacturer

Do the same for your life partner. Don’t rush searching but put a guard around your heart in the meanwhile.

Love Denii